The Soul of Grieving

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I lost of my beautiful mother on July 27th 2021, and I find myself in a profoundly transitional time. A time where I am re-valuing everything in my life.

Sometimes the unexpected happens when grieving the loss of someone so important in your life.

After her passing, I started going through a lot of old photo albums. I cleared out all my closets and went through every single photo in my entire home, re-living some very interesting moments from my childhood, my teenage years, my 20’s, 30’s… It’s been an interesting journey back in time…

It feels very much like a life review. When you cross to the other side, you spend a period of time doing what’s called a life review. You re-live your entire life. Every interaction and experience you’ve ever had, you re-live. You see it all through the eye of your soul, through the prism your infinite consciousness. Every aspect of the now moments are re-lived, and re-viewed through the spectrum of an unlimited dimension.

You see with love and detachment. You understand at the soul level what lessons you’ve learned and what lessons you still need to work on.

Immediately after my mother passed away, I had the sense that, instead of her being in only one place on this earth, in her body and in her apartment, I had the strong feeling that she was now everywhere in the Universe.

I was watching a beautiful video by Eckhart Tolle where he said something that makes the most sense to me:

The form obscures God

And the death of the from enables God

The formless shines through

where there was form

That is what happens at the spiritual level. Through the death of the form – the body, the person who passes – Spirit shines through. The light shines through. The formless part connected to the form… shines through.

During the life review that occurs after losing someone dear to us, what begins to happen in the grieving process is a combination of this connection with the formless part of our form, the spirit part that is connected to our body and our life, and the new insights this perspective gives us. This shifts us when we look at our entire life as a whole existence.

There are many gifts that come with grieving. Grieving is a very difficult, challenging, hard thing to go through, but at the same time there are some beautiful gifts that can come from it.

One of the gifts is that our heart is so open, so vulnerable, that this opens a spiritual doorway towards true surrender and trust in a power greater than ourselves.

Through my own grieving, I was gifted a beautiful insight and vision. I experienced my own immortal self, my ageless self, my timeless, limitless spirit.

These gifts can directly help to heal what you didn’t know needed healing. Things like self-esteem, comparing yourself to others, or certain false values being exposed. You start seeing that what you thought mattered to you, whether it’s possessions, success, financial abundance, or even how others view you, these begin to be put into a spiritual context.

In the grieving process, that open-heart vulnerability brings to light what truly matters to you.

Every soul is different. Every human being is different. This is a great opportunity to reassess life with a new view. With new eyes. With fresh perspectives.

This can be very challenging as it may trigger the beginning of a spiritual awakening. Through the deep pain of loss, heart opening, vulnerability and life review, as well as through this new connection to the limitless soul now being felt after the death of a loved-one, a profound shift can feel like the shattering of your former life.

While there’s no denying that saying goodbye at the physical level is profoundly painful, there are also great gifts that come the moment the formless can be fully experienced, when a cherished loved-one has transitioned. There are spiritual gifts that can come from the depth of the grieving experience.

For me, the greatest gift that came from that, is feeling that connection with my mother at a much deeper, infinite level.

She truly is everywhere, at all times, now.

What I retain most from my photo album life-review, is the profound gifts that come from being present. Truly present. Present to this moment. Fully taking in the life that is being experienced with every cherished being that we love.

Only in the present moment can we experience the spirit in the body, the fullness of our loved-ones. To be present to another is the greatest gift we can give them.

As they transition, that spirit connection and presence we had during their life will be the greatest gift that lives on forever in our heart and soul.

And this is where my beautiful mother’s spirit now lives… forever in my soul.

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved
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[Spoken video version of this post on my YouTube channel]

Today’s soul whisper: The love between each breath

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reawakened love

 

there is a space
within each breath
where life begins

anew

where energy sparks
a heart to

awaken

between each breath
souls connect

between the ebb and flow of
breathing tides

love is this moment

time stops
a soul whispers

the heart
reawakens

to new horizons
and the dawn of a new

love

 

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved

Michèle voices her poem in an inspiring video:

 

– Michèle 💖

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Today’s Heart Whisper: Dog lessons for humans from my dog ❤️

Vlog #5:

Dog wisdom: dog lessons for humans from my dog – DOG VIDEO (sweet/funny/touching/inspiring)

Starring….Roxy!!!

There are so many beautiful dog wisdoms and inspiring life lessons my dog taught me.

In creating this video, it was such an emotional journey to look back at the huge collection of photos, videos and memories my dog Roxy and I shared in the last 12 years.

Dogs are truly amazing beings. Loving, loyal, innocent, joyful and the best companions in the world!

I was deeply affected when a friend of Roxy’s passed away on January 25th 2019 (one of my best friend’s dog, Max), and I wanted to create a video that could show the moving bond there is between a dog (my sweet baby Roxy) and her doggy-mom (that would be me).

In memory and honour of Max. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit. It lives in our hearts forever. (December 15th 2008 – January 25th 2019)

With love,

Michèle & Roxy 💖💕xo

(Here’s my mom (who’s featured in the video) watching it on my laptop… this moment captured in a photo makes me so happy…sniff… 💖💖💖)

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[NOTE: I created a new YouTube channel on January 7th 2019. This is my 5th video post. I post every Monday afternoon. For more content, please go to my ‘Michèle’s Vlog‘ page or directly to my YouTube channel]

Photo credit at 1:50, Cotelle Stevenson. Colette Stevenson photography website: Colette Stevenson Photography

Music credit & license: Running Waters Full Band by Audionautix Artist: http://audionautix.com/ Music use instructions as stated in YouTube’s Audio Library: “You’re free to use this song in any of your videos, but you must include the following in your video description: Running Waters Full Band by Audionautix is licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution license (https://creativecommons.org/licenses/…) Artist: http://audionautix.com/“

Today’s Heart Whisper… a special message of love & gratitude 💖

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This is the first day.

A new day, a new beginning.

My heart is full, so full, thanks to you.

I read your beautiful words, and sense your beautiful touch.

You fill my life with love by just being you. You. You!

I thank you for your courage to write, to express, to create.

Please stay true to you.

From the bottom of my heart,

I thank you.

Wishing you love, joy, creativity and freedom of expression in 2019!

Michèle 💖xo

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Sunday’s Heart Whisper… Healing the past by loving the present 🌺

 

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Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it.”

Tori Amos

 

The past still lives in us.

Everything that we are now, everything in our lives now, every detail that surrounds us now are clues as to what needs healing whether we are conscious of it or not.

Every moment is a potential opportunity to heal.

We may not be aware of how we resist what needs healing, how we deny it, or how we give it power. We live in its pain by fearing it or by refusing to journey through it to the other side, towards healing.

Yet… healing the past need not be painful.

Within this present moment exists everything we need for healing – within everything that is manifesting physically, within everything that is felt in the heart, and within everything that is whispered by our spirit.

If we can find the courage and willingness to embrace, and yes even love what we discover, letting go of our resistance to seeing and embracing what is, this will have the miraculous effect of also releasing its pain.

Becoming conscious of all that we are now is the key to healing and transformation.

And we become ready to enter into this path of consciousness and self- love by first finding the willingness to be present to all that we are… now.

We are that powerful.

We are that beautiful.

We are that worthy of our greatest love.

Ask yourself in this moment, “Am I willing to love myself exactly as I am right now?”

A single drop of willingness is all we need.

The most microscopic drop of willingness -– the willingness to love and accept ourselves as we are right now – has the power to move the entire Universe and create miraculous healing.

 

In love & light,

Michèle 🌺

 

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.

(This was a short excerpt adapted from my yet-to-be-published book ©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.)

Sunday’s Heart Whisper… Awakening to the whispers of inner guidance by choosing love 💖

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Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.

– Vernon Howard

 

Choosing love

When in doubt, choose love.

           The path towards awakening to the whispers of inner guidance is a path where we consciously choose love. We can find comfort in knowing that we do have the power of choice. When our lives feel chaotic or confusing, or when we are full of fear, we have the power within to infuse our thoughts and decisions with love. By noticing our thoughts, behaviors and actions with mindful-clarity, intention, willingness, and open-heartedness, we can consciously choose a loving path and tap into the infinite well of love within.

            Love is boundless. There are as many ways to experience love as there are experiences to be had. The key lies in recognizing our power of choice when it comes to our experiences of love. This is how we open ourselves up to the whispers of our inner guidance and all of the choices needed – no matter how small – to move us towards the life we love…

            …Towards a life full of love.

 

– Michèle ❤️xo

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.

(This was a short excerpt adapted from my yet-to-be-published book ©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.)

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