The Soul of Grieving

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I lost of my beautiful mother on July 27th 2021, and I find myself in a profoundly transitional time. A time where I am re-valuing everything in my life.

Sometimes the unexpected happens when grieving the loss of someone so important in your life.

After her passing, I started going through a lot of old photo albums. I cleared out all my closets and went through every single photo in my entire home, re-living some very interesting moments from my childhood, my teenage years, my 20’s, 30’s… It’s been an interesting journey back in time…

It feels very much like a life review. When you cross to the other side, you spend a period of time doing what’s called a life review. You re-live your entire life. Every interaction and experience you’ve ever had, you re-live. You see it all through the eye of your soul, through the prism your infinite consciousness. Every aspect of the now moments are re-lived, and re-viewed through the spectrum of an unlimited dimension.

You see with love and detachment. You understand at the soul level what lessons you’ve learned and what lessons you still need to work on.

Immediately after my mother passed away, I had the sense that, instead of her being in only one place on this earth, in her body and in her apartment, I had the strong feeling that she was now everywhere in the Universe.

I was watching a beautiful video by Eckhart Tolle where he said something that makes the most sense to me:

The form obscures God

And the death of the from enables God

The formless shines through

where there was form

That is what happens at the spiritual level. Through the death of the form – the body, the person who passes – Spirit shines through. The light shines through. The formless part connected to the form… shines through.

During the life review that occurs after losing someone dear to us, what begins to happen in the grieving process is a combination of this connection with the formless part of our form, the spirit part that is connected to our body and our life, and the new insights this perspective gives us. This shifts us when we look at our entire life as a whole existence.

There are many gifts that come with grieving. Grieving is a very difficult, challenging, hard thing to go through, but at the same time there are some beautiful gifts that can come from it.

One of the gifts is that our heart is so open, so vulnerable, that this opens a spiritual doorway towards true surrender and trust in a power greater than ourselves.

Through my own grieving, I was gifted a beautiful insight and vision. I experienced my own immortal self, my ageless self, my timeless, limitless spirit.

These gifts can directly help to heal what you didn’t know needed healing. Things like self-esteem, comparing yourself to others, or certain false values being exposed. You start seeing that what you thought mattered to you, whether it’s possessions, success, financial abundance, or even how others view you, these begin to be put into a spiritual context.

In the grieving process, that open-heart vulnerability brings to light what truly matters to you.

Every soul is different. Every human being is different. This is a great opportunity to reassess life with a new view. With new eyes. With fresh perspectives.

This can be very challenging as it may trigger the beginning of a spiritual awakening. Through the deep pain of loss, heart opening, vulnerability and life review, as well as through this new connection to the limitless soul now being felt after the death of a loved-one, a profound shift can feel like the shattering of your former life.

While there’s no denying that saying goodbye at the physical level is profoundly painful, there are also great gifts that come the moment the formless can be fully experienced, when a cherished loved-one has transitioned. There are spiritual gifts that can come from the depth of the grieving experience.

For me, the greatest gift that came from that, is feeling that connection with my mother at a much deeper, infinite level.

She truly is everywhere, at all times, now.

What I retain most from my photo album life-review, is the profound gifts that come from being present. Truly present. Present to this moment. Fully taking in the life that is being experienced with every cherished being that we love.

Only in the present moment can we experience the spirit in the body, the fullness of our loved-ones. To be present to another is the greatest gift we can give them.

As they transition, that spirit connection and presence we had during their life will be the greatest gift that lives on forever in our heart and soul.

And this is where my beautiful mother’s spirit now lives… forever in my soul.

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved
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[Spoken video version of this post on my YouTube channel]

Today’s Soul Whisper: A Phoenix in Waiting

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A bird’s eye view

 

on a day’s walk
the winds of change
exhale defeat

standing still
is our fate

and yet…

through the soul’s eyes
the stillness rises,
a Phoenix
in waiting

its dawn still bright

 

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved
Photo credit: Flo Maderebner from Pexels

 

 

Spoken word video: Dare to Dream Your Beautiful Dream

 

(This is a previously posted poem set to spoken word, music and images)

 

Dare To Dream Your Beautiful Dream

How brave we are to dream.
To dream what seems
an impossible dream.

It takes courage to dream.
To believe in our dream.
To listen to our heart.
To hear our soul.
To walk our journey
towards the unknown.

Our dream wants change,
pushes discomfort
and asks for action.

It needs love,
it needs patience
and requires faith.

Faith in ourselves.
Faith in the Universe.
Faith in our vision.
Faith in our heart.
Faith in our soul
and faith in our dream.

We may want to run.
We may want to stop.
We may want to scream
and we may want to quit.

Rest if we must,
but we must never stop.

Never stop believing.
Never give up your dream.

Be daring.
Be brave.
Be you.

And one day,
in a single heartbeat,
your beautiful dream
comes true.

 

– Michèle 💖
©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved

Today’s Heart Whisper… daring to dream ⭐️

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Dare To Dream Your Beautiful Dream

How brave we are to dream.
To dream what seems
an impossible dream.

It takes courage to dream.
To believe in our dream.
To listen to our heart.
To hear our soul.
To walk our journey
towards the unknown.

Our dream wants change,
pushes discomfort
and asks for action.

It needs love,
it needs patience
and requires faith.

Faith in ourselves.
Faith in the Universe.
Faith in our vision.
Faith in our heart.
Faith in our soul
and faith in our dream.

We may want to run.
We may want to stop.
We may want to scream
and we may want to quit.

Rest if we must,
but we must never stop.

Never stop believing.
Never give up your dream.

Be daring.
Be brave.
Be you.

And one day,
in a single heartbeat,
your beautiful dream
comes true.

 

– Michèle 💖
©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved

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Today’s Heart Whisper… letting the heart light the way.

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lighthouse

 

as eyes fixate
on captured sights

fragmented pieces
of pictured strife

chaos reigns

two-dimensional snaps
of a three-dimensional life
trapped by walls of spite

blinded
by the bricks that bind
and pain

scraps of fright
ablaze

hazed
in a cloud of hate

still…

a heart gazes
upon what lays
beyond the fume

a house light
setting a glimmering trail
amidst the smouldering clay
and melting stone

flares
calling home

 

– Michèle 💖
©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved

 

 

 

Sunday’s Heart Whisper… Awakening to the whispers of inner guidance by choosing love 💖

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Inner guidance is heard like soft music in the night by those who have learned to listen.

– Vernon Howard

 

Choosing love

When in doubt, choose love.

           The path towards awakening to the whispers of inner guidance is a path where we consciously choose love. We can find comfort in knowing that we do have the power of choice. When our lives feel chaotic or confusing, or when we are full of fear, we have the power within to infuse our thoughts and decisions with love. By noticing our thoughts, behaviors and actions with mindful-clarity, intention, willingness, and open-heartedness, we can consciously choose a loving path and tap into the infinite well of love within.

            Love is boundless. There are as many ways to experience love as there are experiences to be had. The key lies in recognizing our power of choice when it comes to our experiences of love. This is how we open ourselves up to the whispers of our inner guidance and all of the choices needed – no matter how small – to move us towards the life we love…

            …Towards a life full of love.

 

– Michèle ❤️xo

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.

(This was a short excerpt adapted from my yet-to-be-published book ©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.)

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Thursday’s Heart Whisper… what is your soul whispering?

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There is a reason for your being. A mission that you came here to accomplish. … Your mission always involves the things you love.”

– Joseph Campbell

 

(The following is an excerpt adapted from my yet-to-be-published book ©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.)

 

The road to get there, here, living our soul-mission, is not an easy one. It involves great commitment, intention, authenticity and integrity. But when it happens, when we are living our passions and our loves, the soul lets us know through an inner serenity, no matter what currents swirl around us.

It is a practice, an allowing, a discovery, a blossoming.

It cannot happen without our full participation and willingness. We cannot live our passion and love without first making the conscious decision and choice to do so. We are responsible for our own happiness and for bringing together all the elements necessary to make it happen.

 

How do we know we are living our soul-mission?

Our soul lets us know through its inner whispers.

 

• Our soul lets us know we’ve found our soul-mission by how it comes to life in our body, heart, mind and spirit. Our energetic states begin to vibrate with soul-clarity, where our perceptions are malleable, changeable through the higher frequencies of love, kindness, understanding and compassion.

• Our soul lets us know we are living our soul-mission by how courageous we are, by how willing we are to set strong boundaries that no longer let through the distractors, the toxic invaders, the old destructive habits, the excuses, the blaming or the shaming.

• Our soul lets us know by how empowered we feel to work our way through the ups and downs so that we can emerge on the other side of pain.

• Our soul lets us know by how our faith is tested at every turn, as we remain steadfast in our resolve to heal, change, face the truth of who we are, and believe in ourselves again.

• And our soul lets us know by how connected we feel to others, how we feel a part of our community, allowing ourselves to be vulnerable enough to ask for help when that is what is needed, and being there for others without depleting ourselves through co-dependency, people-pleasing or enabling.

 

By allowing ourselves to live moments of passion and love, by identifying those moments when our soul is revealing to us that “this is it”, by having the courage to walk our authentic path, and by having the strength to keep going when our faith is wavering, finding solace in our oneness with others, we suddenly find ourselves waking up to our soul-mission, feeling the love and peace we searched for all of our lives.

So… what is your soul whispering?

 

Wishing you strength, courage and light on your awakening journey.

– Michèle 💖🌟

©Michèle Duquet, all rights reserved.

 

Here is a photo of the day I received my Bioenergy practitioner certification, something that could never have happened without listening to my soul’s inner whispers.

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There is magic in surrender… 🌟

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Sunday’s Heart Whisper:

There is magic in surrender…
Between breaths
between thoughts
between time,
I released all that was ‘mine’
and awakened the miracle whisperer.

– Michèle 🌟

©Michèle Duquet

 

Monday’s Heart Whisper…

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Today’s Heart Whisper:
                    When a writer’s heart aches to speak…
                                  … it cannot help but soar with hope in pursuit of the elusive word.
                                                                                                                  – Michèle 💖